I was abused as a child bride and this is what I learned | Samra Zafar | TEDxMississauga

I was abused as a child bride and this is what I learned | Samra Zafar | TEDxMississauga



Her story has captured a nation from coast to coast across Canada and beyond. Samra Zafar takes us on a journey of survival and self-discovery.

Samra was trapped as a child bride in an abusive marriage for over a decade, with no hope of ever finding freedom and opportunities to live with respect. Samra is an advocate for survivors of domestic violence, and her own journey of survival was featured in Toronto Life magazine in February 2017. Her feature on Yahoo Canada’s Facebook page became the page’s most watched video of all time, with over 6.6 million views.
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Samra Zafar is a Commercial Account Manager in the Toronto Business and Professional Services department at RBC Royal Bank. She was previously an Associate with the ABL group at RBC Capital Markets.
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Samra is a multiple award winning graduate of the University of Toronto, a Public Speaker, an upcoming Author, and the Founder of Brave Beginnings, an organization dedicated to helping women find personalized mentorship, friendship and support to rebuild their lives after oppression and abuse. After overcoming severe challenges and adversity, Samra went on to graduate with

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

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34 thoughts on “I was abused as a child bride and this is what I learned | Samra Zafar | TEDxMississauga”

  1. GRACIAS,,!! TU FUI MI ESPEJO ,!! πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»β˜˜οΈπŸ™πŸ»β˜˜οΈπŸ™πŸ»β˜˜οΈπŸ™πŸ»πŸ’₯

  2. This woman has not set free from the abuse. She has only change one kind of abuse to other kind of abuse. Because university career is not real alternative to being in arranged marriage in which woman has no rights. Circumstances of career in science, business, sport or politics are not itself different to circumstances of life of young girl forced by pseudo-family to marry some wealthy old man and forced to obey him. The core of both of these cases is the hard oppression exerted on an individual human being aimed at depriving of single man or woman of individual views and individual morality and replacing it with the pseudo-morality of a mindless, intimidated and therefore susceptible mob directed from the offices of 'important people". Besides, there is not true at all that allegedly 10% of men are victims of intimate partner abuse. These data are based on pure ideology pretending to be objective science, pretending to be scientific research. Zero percent of men meet any pathologic attitudes from their female partners. If any woman uses violence against her partner – the only reason of this must be even more abusive tendency from the side of this man,
    But the most important thing is that attitude of this woman towards the subject if a human is perfect or imperfect, her almost cult of imperfection is a trap. Death trap for individual man. Maybe the worst death trap of modern world. Healthy attitude towards individual man or woman consist of recognition of this fact that EVERY HUMAN IS PERFECT, no matter what he/she is like and no matter what he/she does or does not. Contrary, any admitting of human imperfection leads to nothing but imminent, colossal growth of the worst pathologies in society. Any adoption, in any form an idea of so-called "original sin" is it is a breeding ground for nothing but pathology, it is a heart of darkness.
    And there is not true that exists that kind of psychologist alledged "knowledge" that let the individual man or woman know if he/she is the object of abuse. There is no "knowledge" like that. The only way to enable a human recognize the fact she/he is in fact under influence of abusive person to let this man or woman be ABSOLUTELY FREE in thinking, in his/her morality and in what he/she do or not do.
    No science can subsitute total freedom. This fact is the most important thing which must learn people anywhere in the world as soon as possible.

  3. Abusers are everywhere….be it inside the house or outside … Maybe a face we know so well someone close to us or a stranger …. Waiting for a chance with a bait….abuses comes in many forms sometimes easy to recognise and the others times hard to point out…. awareness about it is the outmost necessarity …among children,teenagers , adults for everyone….

  4. Hard to believe this happened in Canada. But I suppose her ability to escape was also because she is in Canada. Good for you Samra. I hope you continue to save other children from this atrocity.

  5. It's so hard to confess but am 23 and my family is forcing me to marry,showing me proposals to which my advice matters like nil, idk what to do cz my family emotionally abuse me am not independent this get more worse help me on what to do

  6. I am impressed of this great video. I was thinking about my own being abused, when I was a young man. Not physically but psychologically. Young women, who used the attraction to make me helpless and lost. Young women, who the lost themselves. And who collected young men just to feel better, not for building up a real relationship.

  7. I'm embarrassed to say as a man that so many other men don't treat their wives with the tenderness and respect they deserve. I was raised in a home with Christian parents where my father set a good example as a father and husband. Whatever she wanted he tried his best to supply.

  8. 2009πŸ’”πŸ‘ΆπŸ˜’πŸ’°πŸ˜’πŸ™πŸ’”πŸ’°πŸ₯ΊπŸ‘Ά
    "Please look up*
    The Corrupt Business of
    Children Protective Service's
    by Senator Nancy Schaefer
    and her talking to
    Podcast Host Alex Jones
    back in May of 2009 on a YouTube video look how they cps/dhs/gov/systems picking on especially lower income families if you're on any government assistance food stamps welfare, disability ,housing, etc Please watch yourself
    and your family..
    Keep Your Family Together
    Peace βœŒοΈπŸ•ŠοΈβœŒοΈ

  9. Listening to this women really opens my eyes to how some women are treated by their own family who should be the first ones who are protecting them. This is one strong women who I can respect. No women should be made to feel like what happened to her by any person. Women are not property.

  10. I'm a victim of gangstalking, also known as targeting… I've been subjected to what seems to be a govt sponsored program, similar to mkultra, in this program women are labeled whores/ geishas, prus, pumas, nuns, roses, hags, pigs according to their ability to have a baby, whether or not they have children and their socioeconomic status (what kind of job they have and how much money they make and whether or not they want to date or marry. Its also called a game, game of life(?) I have likened it to my own handmaid's tale, to the worst scifi written and have been swimming upstream against all of it: it's been a nightmare I'm still waiting to wake up from.

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