Emergency Surgery & Chronic Illness / Hannah Witton & Kati Morton

The idea that flair ups can be caused by stress really fits for me. I get stomch pains which I now believe are part of my anxiaty… My anxiaty starts in my gut and grows and can cause cramps. Really uncomforatble. I've been using better help and taking vitamins again, trusting the tools I have for coping now I've spoken to a proffesional… All of this has helped lessen my cramps… Thanks the lord!!

Hey Kati i was wondering if you have a video on the effects of PTSD on loved ones. You mentioned in Hannah's video about transgenerational PTSD, and i also know therapists can develop PTSD from clients. My specific situation is my husband and mother both have complex PTSD and i help them (mainly my mom) live functionally. I worry about my mental health as well as my daughter's. I dont want her to "inherit" the PTSD, any advice or links to videos/resources will be greatly appreciated

#katifaq hi kati thank u so much for posting video's. They help me so much but anyways I have a couple questions. First of all my father who I love dearly is disabled from a heart attack due to his drinking. He can't even feed himself but he can walk. I have a lot of grief from it even though it's been a long time. I blame myself because my grandma told me it was my fault cause I didn't spend enough time with him. I was only 14, i was also there the night he had the incident and it caused me ptsd. How do I move past this and not have so much anger? He's really mean now and sometimes hits me. Im 22 now but i help take care of him and i hate to because he treats me so bad and it doesnt seem like he cares. Which bothers me a little cause that's not the dad I know. I self harm and od on pills bc of my dads condition. Please help me and i go to therapy but doesn't seem like enough at times? second question is how do you know if something happened to you as a child like abuse? I don't remember a lot of my childhood and not sure why. I never told anyone this but when I was around 8 i touched the little girl I was babysitting and I'm trying to understand why? My only conclusion is that my friends brother made me touch him when I was 5 or that this 40 year old man use to hangout with me when I was around 6 and not sure why. Nobody knew him. I wouldn't even tell my parents about him when they would ask and he use to give me money. I remember one time he had me sit on his lap and that's the last memory I have. Maybe he was trying to groom me? Please help me understand what's going on. I've been very depressed and going crazy trying to figure this out on my own.

I've been disabled for 12 years now and still get really down about it, it has severely damaged my self esteem and i feel worthless, but I'm scared to talk to a counsellor, please help!!! x

Hi, um, I'm kinda new to your channel, and I was wondering if, um, how do I say this…? Um, can you talk more about coping with depression and self-harm? I know you've done videos about it before, but, I need help. I'm scared that this will all end in a year's time…

Kati I have a question to ask. I see my therapist a little bit as my mom or mentor. Is this transference bad or should I not worry about it?

Hey, I've got a question. If anyone could answer this that would be much appreciated. How do I get a diagnosis for a mental illness and what is it like? Do you just sit down while a doctor asks you questions?

I think the entire disabled and chronically ill community appreciated Hannah's awareness of the fear of dating with something different, despite her amazing partner being solid.
There is always a conflict about when to divulge that kind of information on a date and even if you should on the first date, or wait for a while until you show more interest in someone and see if it is reciprocated

Hey Kati, I had a look and saw you haven’t discussed complicated bereavement – would you be able to do a video on it? I lost my dad 4 1/2 years ago and I still haven’t processed it at all…my life is still all over the place (can’t hold a job, dropped out of school etc) and I either suppress the emotion or I’m a total wreck. Please help x

I remembered when she was talking about the ileostomy – I used to be a CNA in a nursing home. An old man with dementia that I was taking care of threw it at me … One of the grossest experiences of my life.
Great talk! I hope Hannah gets feeling better, she seems like a nice person. ❤️

Wonderful to hear how others with chronic illness cope and confess for want of a better word. Like Hannah, mine's been going for a long time, the other probably since birth and it's hard. People DO understand once you tell them and they see you struggling. People are generally good and compassionate. I did have a hard time in my teens and early 20's because twice a month I have TERRIBLE endometriosis pain (despite full hysterectomy) and people couldn't work out why I wasn't going out. Now I'm older and friends have had kids, it's just easier to say, "Hey, sorry, pain's too bad today so I'm staying in". Honesty is best. I am BLESSED to have friends who continue to ask me to everything knowing that I'll often refuse but come and be full of life when I can. I love them for that. Kudos to EVERYONE like Hannah who have chronic pain. It's hard, it changes your life, your brain wiring but gosh it makes you compassionate and an empathic badass if you so will it. Thanks Kati and Hannah! xoxoxoxoxox

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This is awesome. Could you do an interview about pelvic floor therapy, bladder mesh implant, interstitial cystitis & how we suffer from so many suicides due to chronic pain. Plus the anxiety & guilt that goes with it?

if people dont know what ulcerative colitis is there is a song hank green made called that because he also has ulcerative colitis

its duponts chemicals that caused peoples to get it

thx for this ha bisky vid

So interesting but the sound quality is really bad at times can you fix this?

Kati, thank you so much for making this video! I have a condition called hydrocephalus that is caused by a brain tumor and I was diagnosed at 8 and although I didn’t process the weight and seriousness of my conditions until my 10th brain surgery last year, it has affected my mental health immensely. I have depression, anxiety and obsession issues but I also have a resilience that can only be built up by difficult events like mine. Your videos, especially this one, really helps educate me and allows me to see I’m not the only one. Thank you so so much!

I don't have a stoma, but I'm disabled. I have a lot of surgery scaring and I use mobility aids part time. I find that with dating, it forces you to be honest from the start of sexy times, which makes things better! Since I have to say, no omg that hurts or whatever, I can also be free to express when it feels good etc. With the scars, I've only had comments from men saying they look cool lol. From women it's more from a place of listening and coming to understand where I am at with it. So, since I'm confident and don't care about the scars, the women I'm with don't either.
What I find is hard is when I show up with a mobility aid, and then the conversation instantly becomes only about my disability. I actually sometimes refuse to continue talking about it! Because I say, being born with a disability has colored my entire life and touches every experience. So, I can't isolate the disability talk. While you're getting to know me, you'll naturally learn about my disability as well. Usually people are pretty cool. Or they just don't match me since there's mobility aids in my dating pics, in which case ignorance is bliss in that area.

On the subject of hiw stress affects health, Dr Gabor Mate's "When the Body Says No: The hidden cost of stress" is an incredible resource and eye opener. It was also initially recommended to me by a mental health intake worker.

*Toxic megacolon (It's a crazy name)

Thank goodness for subtitles… Next time please do an audio manipulation in post to fix that because it makes the video unbarable to watch!

I have Crohns, which is so similar to UC that it takes months or years to diagnose which one a person has (if either – I'm still in the process really) and I had no idea she had UC. this is so cool to find out

I have Crohn's and it's awesome to see this topic being discussed, thank you!

Hi Kati, I know this is a year old but in case you are still using this mike- some mike's can pick up on the signals emitted by phones to satellites, and from gaming consoles. I think this may have been the source of the buzzing. Hope this helps!

I talked to a returning patient at the hospital who had the J pouch surgery done, and despite having extremely competent surgical care she has experienced chronic, painful problems with the surgery that haven't resolved over the years. Nice cheerful woman but quite down on this procedure. Like many people there she was Ashkenazi which factor is a particular genetic predisposition.

Edit 1: so to clarify the removal of colon isn't really a removal of the autoimmune dysfunction, or free of those effects and complications. It varies individually, sometimes regardless of predicted genetic input. So that won't be fun for any of us having to make that j-pouch decision.

Edit 2 : 12:30 it's called Toxic Megacolon and this is very serious or fatal. Probably how my mother died.

Edit 3: taking about poo and colons is really tricky. People often rather say 'stomach' and they prefer to ignore/forget the technical details of your very real physical complications and how they affect your life, which makes it even harder for them to be a good support in your life. Find better friends if possible.

Also 22:00 this 'stomach brain' may be part of the Pneumogastric Complex (mentioned in books eg The Body Keeps The Score.)
This author also talks about the role of trauma and IBD, which is the discussion of Katie's other video with Hannah

All right, please literally take care of yourselves!

OMG Katie I remember you from Shane’s video😁😁😁